I was talking to a friend who read off five New Year’s resolutions — all staggering.
I would bet that by week two in January she will have run out of steam and have some kind of set back based on failure.
Her resolutions were across the board from exercising to business to denying past emotions to not eating her favorite food (try moderation, I offered) to painting her dining room. Well, that one could happen if she finally decides on a color.
This got me thinking as to why we set ourselves up for failure?
Why do resolutions have to be so daunting?
Fitness clubs and gyms love this time of year. Everyone makes a resolution to lose weight and exercise. In January gyms are imploding with new members. By March, most are no-shows. They may appear again in April or May with the threat of bathing suit season around the corner.
For about five years in a row, my best friend and I would make a list of our goals and exchange the list so we could keep each other focused. Ha Ha. That didn’t work. Unless we put our lists in emails, we lost track of them. Instead of feeling good about accomplishing a goal, we would feel badly that we only accomplished one.
Life coach Valorie Burton has some words for the wise to focus on the small things that bring you joy not on moving mountains. Some of her suggestions include:
- Take a daily walk with a loved one (this could be your dog)
- Before going to bed, write down three things that you are grateful for which will also make you sleep better. (I’m going to start this!)
- Schedule or plan something fun at least once a week.
Again, moderation is the key. I’m not going to press 200 pounds of iron any more than I’m going to change my life in a month.
What’s this have to do with food? It doesn’t really but it has to do with having a healthy outlook on life.